Many guys have problems talking to women because we don’t always know what to say. This is a pretty small problem considering that you could be the guy that is telling a girl WAY too much than he should be. Revealing something that weirds the girl out is the number one killer of budding relationships.

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You've just entered Dumpedville and it's not pretty. Moist tissues are piled on the floor, your face is puffy and you've only gotten out of bed to pee. What happened to the sweet, energetic girl we all know and love? She got her heart broken. Well, the time has come to bounce back. Jump-start your life (and heart) again.

1. Focus on today. Take things one step at a time, one day at a time.

2. Set aside a time each day for grieving. If you find yourself thinking about HIM at 9:13 a.m., tell yourself you'll think about that during the allotted time.

3. Don't lie in bed all day fantasizing about the last great orgasm you had with him.

4. Adopt a pet. (If it was a nasty break-up, adopt a pit bull terrier and take him for frequent walks around your ex's block.)

5. Give yourself a pinch for every negative 'No one will ever love me again' thought. This process is called retraining your brain. Ouch.

6. Give yourself one week to indulge. Eat nothing, eat just Ben and Jerry's, go out and party, go on a shopping spree (with HIS credit cards), flirt with the postman, have (protected) meaningless sex. Then stop and reassess. This cooling-off period will help give you distance and perspective.

7. Scribble down all your heavy thoughts in a journal. It's like having a 24-hour therapist ' someone to listen without interrupting.

8. Put your pain in perspective. Listen to country music or watch a daytime talk show (in your current state of mind, you'll be able to totally relate).

9. Go on a chocolate diet. Chocolate contains a natural amphetamine, phenylethylamine, the same one our brains produce when we fall in love and that makes ups feel giddy and elated. When we fall out of love, we have PEA withdrawal.

10. Just do it. You probably don't much feel like breaking a sweat, but working out for just 30 minutes a day is a major mood-buster (and gut-buster if you've been following tip #9).

11. Put a positive spin on what is happening. Write down all the negative statements that occur to you, and then rewrite every single one of them with a positive slant.

12. Call up an old friend who used to have a big-time crush on you. It’ll give you a little confidence-booster.

13. Weekends are tough for the newly single woman. Form a Saturday Night Club and have a standing date with a bunch of similarly solo friends.

14. Reprogram your thoughts. Stop mid-sentence if you've been obsessing about what you could have/should have/would have done differently. Instead, change your chant to what you can't/won't/shouldn't ever do or take in a relationship again.

15. Give yourself six weeks. According to studies, this is about how long it takes to get over a severe loss.

16. Vow NOT to swear off men. Research has found women who avoid any emotional attachment after a bad break-up are much more likely to leave or destroy their next relationship for fear of getting hurt again.

17. Wait at least 90 days before having sex again. Think of it as your ex-relationship's warranty.

18.Send his stuff packing. Studies show that we get physically addicted to the pheromones secreted by the person we sleep with.

19. Walk past a construction site once a day.

For many of us, our awkward teenage years are something we're only too glad to forget. So what is it about our first love that stays with us years after we've grown out of our high school personas?

Despite having moved on ages ago, and maybe even happily involved with someone far better suited for you, you occasionally find yourself wondering how he's doing. But don't despair ' you're not alone. According to a classmates.com poll, 54 percent of respondents had thought about their first love in the past year, many of them even married with kids.

When you stop and think about it, it's easy to understand why our first foray into romance holds a treasured place in our memories. How could we forget something as intense and exciting as our first relationship? Not only is it something we'd been dreaming about since Cinderella was rescued by her prince; it's also a 'first' for many other things, like being so close to someone outside of your family or kissing (or more!). It's the first time we've openly shared an attraction with someone, and the first time we might be feeling the ups and downs that accompany any intimate connection.

Researchers have found that falling in love has a similar effect on the brain as using cocaine, and that falling in love as a teenager is more intense than the experience is when it takes place in adulthood. It's no wonder. As an important step in maturing into adulthood, what we share with our first love reveals a lot about who we are, and does a lot to shape our identity for other relationships down the road.

And when it eventually did come to an end, it was probably a shock to believe that you two wouldn't be together forever. But now that you've grown, you realize that while you still might care about your first love, there are so many more wonderful people out there, and so many fascinating loves (and heartbreaks) to experience!

Breaking up is never easy, no matter how 'amicable' you might consider the split. But before you can begin to even think about a new (and better) relationship, gaining a sense of closure is one of the most important steps in moving on.

But what is closure? And how do you get it? Getting 'closure' is the process of healing that happens as you accept that things have ended. According to Wikipedia, it's the state of experiencing an emotional conclusion to a difficult life event ' like a breakup.

Get away
While most of us can't take a real vacation, it's important to change your environment. Get rid of any sentimental mementos that remind you of him. Distract yourself by hanging out with friends or picking up a new hobby.

Accept it
Lingering questions like 'why me?' or 'if I had only '' are pointless. If you are still looking for answers after the initial cooling-off period, have a discussion with your ex or send a letter if you can't handle a face-to-face encounter. Be prepared that they might not want to talk, or might not provide the answers you were looking for.

Forgive and forget
Or apologize. If you are weighed down by resentment or guilt, you won't be able to begin dating with an open mind. What matters is that it's over, and that you two shared good times along with the bad.

Be patient
Getting used to any major change takes time. Eventually, you'll wake up and realize that you haven't even thought about old what's-his-name. Hopefully, you'll be thankful for what the relationship taught you and be readier than ever to jump back into the dating pool again.

When the time has come to move on, you need some comfort, some lovin’ and some cuddlin’ from those who love you most: family and friends.

Match your mood to your support system.

Visit your mother if you want to be babied and cooked your favorite foods.

Find your dad if you just want to hang out silently with someone and maybe hammer a few things.

Call your best friend when you need to hear how sexy, smart and wonderful you are.

Get together with a happily married couple if you need instant proof that being back with the 'singletons' is better.

Gather single girlfriends when you're ready to go prowling for fresh meat and have catty bitch sessions about your ex (they've been there, done it and bought the T-shirt).

Dial male friends when you need reminding that not all men are swine.

Look up an old ex for a passionate fling.

Get in touch with his friends when you need to let out all the venomous things you have ever felt about him. It should (a) get back to your ex and (b) allow you to gauge whether the listener likes or dislikes your ex, perhaps giving you something in common'.