How To Avoid Getting Cuffed This Winter

Chestnuts are roasting on an open fire, your mom is flicking through ‘A Thousand Ways to Serve Turkey’ and all the strippers out there are considering dusting off their Mrs. Claus outfits. The Christmas and NYE double-dip is upon us and that can only mean one thing: you’re going to get involved in an ‘it’s complicated’ kind of thing. Either way, your Facebook status is going to change because it’s that time of year again when getting tied down starts to sound like a really good idea. We call this “cuffing season.” As the temperatures drop people just can’t seem to stop themselves snuggling up next to someone.

But what if that someone is someone really inadvisable, festively plump, a bit annoying, and sure to be dumped in time  for Spring Break? Then you need to learn how to avoid getting cuffed: sounds easy but with all that mistletoe around it’s harder than it seems. So don’t tell me I didn’t warn you that the festive season comes with a health warning:

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10 Signs You’re Addicted To Porn

Googling ‘boobs’ so often that you’re getting a RSI? You might be a porn addict. We’re serious, you may have a real problem. Or you could just be a normal, horny dude with too much time (and substances) on your hands. There’s only one way to tell, though: take our porn addiction symptoms check list and if you score more than five points cancel your subscription to Brazzers, disable your wi-fi, and study the ways of Tim Tebow.

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So what did you score? Are you a porn addict or just a little frisky?

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5 Reasons Why Halloween Is The Easiest Holiday To Hook Up

Don’t worry you’ve still got time. I’d say around 4 weeks. That’s when “cuffing season” begins. What’s cuffing season? It’s when you “hole up” for the winter; when you’re more likely to end up locked / knocked up than hooking up. Halloween’s your last (and best) chance to have the hook up of the year. So, get your True Blood inspired costumes on and covered in (probably) fake blood for my top 5 reasons why Halloween is the easiest holiday to hook up.

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If your Halloween plans to date involved watching all of the Chucky movies back to back with some pumpkin pie please, do me a favor, and get laid instead.

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How To Pick Up A Shot Girl: The Final Chapter

Over the past month, our British Bisexual Babe Hayley Quinn has shared intimate details of her epic hook up with a shot girl. In Part 1, she explained how she was able to engage her target, secure her number, and leave her wanting more. In Part 2, she talked about her first date with the drink slinger and how the object of her affection resisted. Like a pro, she played it cool and set up plans to seal the deal at an exclusive night club. Without further ado, here’s the final installment of the How To Pick Up A Shot Girl Trilogy. Check it out below.

Champagne glasses clinked, as I sauntered through the dark club:

“Come” I text the Shot Girl, “I don’t want you to say maybe..”

My phone beeped: she was on her way. My lips bent into a wry smile. Listen up guys, if a girl crosses town to see you at midnight, if she makes the logistics work, she is ‘DTF’.

I met the Shot Girl outside of the private member’s club. Stood there looking adorable in textured stockings and a tight black basque; she looked up at the beautiful, elite lights of the club. Now you guys don’t need to ‘show off’ by taking your girls to the hottest ticket in town; BUT by demonstrating some of your cool through your knowledge, your connections, you will make her want you more.

Pulling her into the club, we began to dance closer. Every man in the room watched us. A gorgeous blonde with amazingly full breasts pushing herself up against me, tearing at my top, grabbing my hips: they all wanted us.

We laughed as guys desperately tried to buy us with drinks; smiling at one another knowing that they would never have us brought us closer.

“Let’s go to a strip club…” I whispered, I wanted to drive her wild.

Flying into a taxi, I took us to a strip club (which was next to my apartment). Gazing at the strippers bodies gyrating in front of us, tensions soared and she slid her hand up onto my inner thighs. Pulling our favourite stripper over, I slid my card into her bra, “I know this is naughty, and totally against the rules, but come find us when you finish…”

High on life, filled with adrenaline, feeling wicked we stepped into my apartment. The mood was electric. This time, there were no protests:

“I want to taste you,” she gasped,  sliding a manicured finger inside of me.

Pushing her onto her back I tore off her turquoise panties…

Now you may have read my first shot girl adventure thinking it was bullsh*t. I can tell you first it’s all true, and secondly if I am a GIRL and can pick up hot GIRLS you can, too: definitely.

The Shot Girl wasn’t DTF when she met me. I had to:

• Persist through resistance, but not be a pest.
• Make the logistics work for me.
• Demonstrate my cool.
• Lead, persuade and escalate aggressively.

These are not skills I was born with: these are things I’ve learned. You can, too, by going to puatraining.com.

Speaking of shot girls, check out this gallery of babes doing body shots…

10 Surefire Signs Your Girlfriend Used To Be A Stripper / Porn Star

She’s red hot in the bedroom, sports some seriously skimpy clothing, and owns a stripper pole. You suspect that she may have been a porn star in a past life: or that she has an alter ego that only comes out after dusk at Spearmint Rhino. If you’re unsure whether your girlfriend could be a professional piece of *ss, then you’d better read my top check list of telltale signs your girlfriend used to be a stripper or a porn star. Check out the list below.

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If you’re disappointed your chick’s not a former stripper or porn star and want to find one, check out www.puatraining.com!

Just be sure to have good insurance.

How To Pick Up A Shot Girl [PART 2]

A couple weeks ago, our British Bisexual Babe Hayley Quinn, devouched details from her efforts to pick up a shot girl, which even as a chick, is harder than it seems. Picking up a girl at her place of work would take real pimp / baller moves. Sometimes you have to lay the foundation before you can lay the sensation. That’s why she played it cool and got her number. So, what happened next? Read on to find out then take a look at demotivational posters about lesbians and girls kissing girls at the bottom of the post.

So, I cancelled three times.

Yup, I had a date with a super beautiful girl and flaked repeatedly: this went beyond ‘playing it cool’, I was being disorganized and screwing up. When the date of date attempt 4 came round I knew then that I had to up my game and take her on a date way beyond the usual quick cappuccino / mojitos that I always advise my clients to take their instant dates on.

So, I booked tickets to Winter Wonderland in Hyde Park (think grottos, fairground rides and fairy lights), packed champagne in my handbag (because I’m romantic like that) and made out with her on the Ferris wheel. She then dragged me onto an ‘upside down’ ride. Now, I’ve got metaphorical balls of steel when it comes to chatting girls up, but, my God, I hate scary rides.

Not wanting to seem like a total p*ssy I made myself endure it, closed my eyes the whole time, and (like a p*ssy) squeezed her mitten-covered hand incredibly tightly through the whole debacle. Stumbling onto solid ground I suggested we go for hot chocolate at my house.

Naturally my house was about 10 minutes walk away (logistics, logistics, logistics) and I had pre-planned a reason (warming, yummy, hot chocolate) to go there.

Buzzing from the combination of adrenaline boosting rides, champagne and the biting cold we fell onto my bed kissing. Rolling on top of me, the Shot Girl pulled away:

“Babe, I don’t think I can do this. I’ve only just met you…”

Now, I knew I really liked this girl, she was a burst of fun energy, great breasts and a beautiful Germanic lilt that just had me. Pressuring or reasoning with her just wouldn’t cut it; so I pulled away and said unfazed, “that’s fine, I’m sure we’ll have plenty more opportunities to get to know each other. Let me walk you to your tube so you don’t travel home too late.”

Here was not a time when I was being a p*ssy: I was being smart. By only responding with cool, calm positivity and leading I was showing that I was outcome independent. People need to feel like they’re making their own choices or they will push back against you time and time again.You should have enough options in your sex life that you don’t have to come across as needily pursuing one person for sex: as it’s so easily got…

Not one to leave the interaction to go totally cold though I responded when she text me. I had a plan: for her to meet me at an exclusive club later that week. An environment that oozed cool, sex and gave me the opportunity I needed to take things a degree sexier. How? After feeling so comfortable and pressure free at my place it was calling her to come back there at the end of a long night…

Check back soon for PART III of this epic pick up story. For now, you can scope out these demotivational posters about lesbians and our photo gallery of girls kissing girls. Enjoy!

DEMOTIVATIONAL POSTERS ABOUT LESBIANS

GIRLS KISSING GIRLS

How To Pick Up A Shot Girl: Part One [PLUS 57 PHOTOS]

It started like all great romances: it was Christmas time, our eyes met across a crowded bar, and she was wearing a Mrs. Claus outfit from Anne Summers. “That one,” I whispered to my client who’d come to me to learn how to pick up hot girls. That December we were specifically practicing getting shot girls.

Gesturing the pneumatic blonde girl over, she slid down next to us. Total 10. Amazing natural breasts, “I’ll demo to you just how you get their number…” I whispered before turning back to the Shot Girl.

Staring at her beautiful lips, that tongue stud, and her cute outfit, I felt my heart pound. She was hot but if I told her that straight off the bat I’d get blown off – just like all the guys that must have been hitting on her. Instead I decided to see if I could find something else out about her, something related to who she was (not what she was dressed up as) to make her heart beat faster, too:

“You must be quite a good hustler to work in a bar like this, I’d imagine it takes some skill to trick all these guys out of their hard-earned cash,” I said, signalling that I wasn’t your average consumer.

“Yeah, sometimes I even have to pretend to flirt with them, and take a shot myself, to keep them buying from me,” she smiled, rolling her eyes.

“You’re kind of a mercenary; I like that about you. I also do a job that’s a little to do with sales, seduction and knowing how to get people exactly where you want them.”

“What do you do?”

I pulled away, “I don’t know if I know you well enough to trust you with that one yet: but let me get your number, we’ll grab a coffee sometime, and we’ll swap trade secrets.”

“I can’t really give that out at work, my boss…”

“That’s cool. You just say the number, I’ll type it in.”

“Ok, 077-8924.”

“Another time,” I said gently squeezing her arm before I sent her back to her work.

Now this is the message I’m going to send to her tomorrow, I said showing my client my phone:
Hey Sarah, how did your manipulation of men go last night? You should have sold heaps of shots, you looked pretty hot in red. Hayley Quinn X

Explaining my choice of words, I told him “Because I’m a girl I need to make it crystal clear to this other girl that I want her as a hot hook up, not just a friend. Teasing also goes a long way to show that you’re not intimidated by these girl’s beauty and that you can handle whatever they can throw at you.”

Pulling some mistletoe from the bar’s decorations, I put it in my client’s breast pocket, “Now it’s your turn tiger, make me proud…”

Next time learn how Hayley Quinn got the Shot Girl out of the bar, onto a date, and out of her Santa Claus costume…

How To Hook Up With The 4 Major Types Of Women

Try to chat up a ballsy, alpha female with some lines you stole from ‘The Notebook’ and she’ll shove your dozen roses right down your throat. Tease a shy girl about how her nose wiggles when she talks, and she’ll cry uncontrollably. To be a great pick up artist you need calibration: picking the right tool for the right situation. Every person is unique: yet there are four broad categories of characters you’re likely to encounter on a regular basis. Each has a code and I’m here to help you crack it. Check out my helpful how to guide below.

The Ring Leader

Most likely to be seen: At the center of her social circle, bossing her friends around, defending them from guys that would hit on them (that’s you!), and ruling the roost. She’s the boss and she knows it.

How to seduce her: Watch out for displaying any signs of weakness: she is strong, and won’t fully respect a guy who is unwilling to challenge her. Just comply and you’ll be able to stick around, but never stick it… err. Women like men who agree with them partly, but also who aren’t afraid of voicing their own opinions. However, the last thing you want to be drawn into is a full blown argument: this girl is emotionally volatile and whilst a bit of fire is going to be a turn-on for her, a man who loses his rag, won’t. Instead ‘win’ your battles with her by never justifying your own opinions. If she challenges you as to why you like Call of Duty, don’t get emotional about it, just simply state, ‘I think it’s cool, I like computer games, no big deal.’ However, when she tells you about things that she’s into, selectively disagree by making her elaborate on it, “So what exactly is it about a film where a girl is in a love triangle with a werewolf and a vampire that you find so compelling? Seems to suspend belief to me.” Expect her to bite back, but enjoy the debate, and a man that can keep her on her toes.

The Cheerleader

Most likely to be seen: Super social, always laughing, surrounded by a group of loyal friends: some she has known 15 years, others 5 minutes.

How to seduce her: The cheerleader is full of life and energy; the last thing she wants is someone to drag her down, or prevent her inner dynamo from having as many adventures as possible. Approach her with too low energy, fail to vibe with her friends, and you’ll never be able to roll with her crew. So make sure whether it’s a street stop, or bowling up to her at a nightclub, you approach with enthusiasm, passion and a mega watt smile. Try matching their energy levels: if they’re all bouncing around on the dance floor be prepared to do your best Usher impression and mirror their dance moves, but with extra panache. You can go right up to her, but don’t ignore her friends. Be direct with her then ask her who she’s here with; then make it your mission to network and integrate with the group. Make eye contact, use touch, and your most compelling anecdotes to entertain the group as a whole. Add some va-va-voom to their evening, take their energy levels even higher, then she’ll be ready to leave with you one on one.

The Bookworm

Most likely to be seen: Actually more likely to be found in the computer lab than the library these days the bookworm is quiet, analytical and not overly impressed by card tricks, twirls or any other ‘silly’ gambits that would make her serious bff’s squirm.

How to seduce her: The polar opposite to the cheerleader this is one girl who won’t appreciate you disrupting the order and serious Zen of her universe with anything to clichéd, hapless or even humorous. If you want to make her laugh channel black comedies and not slapstick. Naturally a little aloof she doesn’t feel a huge need to make new buddies so being friendly isn’t going to fly either. Open observationally, calmly and be James Bond cool. Don’t drop in meaningless jokes, instead be low energy and musing. Don’t fear pauses and match her investment / interest levels (probably low) by mirroring her body language. A succession of short sets will probably feel more comfortable than one long one, as you may need to plough to get onto her favourite topic (Nine Inch Nails, cellular biology or postmodern literature you take your pick). Once you’ve hooked her by showing that you too can be calm, cultured and not in the slightest melodramatic (again put those flowers away) impress her with a logistically well thought out date plan, and for god’s sake be punctual!

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The Hippie

Most likely to be seen: Talking about vibes, energy, karma, the universe or horoscopes, the hippy can be an outsider or a socializer. Either way, you can be guaranteed that she’ll think everyone she’s met in her life is through her bff destiny.

How to seduce her: The second she turns, doe eyed, to ask, ‘what sign are you?’ you know you’re on the home run, as she searches for providential reasons that brought you together. Now your only mission is to supply them. Root around for commonalities (ones based on experiences and feeling always rank higher than musical preferences) and then deliver them as if you’d just had an epiphany:

“Really? That’s so strange because I always felt that I was going to meet someone significant on a bus, too. I just can’t explain it, but there was just a vibe about you, that made me need to speak to you. It’s funny how we feel exactly the same way about that isn’t it? So unusual.”

PS – ‘Vibe’ is a loose word that can be used to define why you approached. Great for masking the fact that it was because she was rocking a fabulously see-through blouse, or that you were just super bored, it makes all pretenses for approaching sound stellar.

Start recognizing that one form of game isn’t universal; pick the right lines for the right girl, and your results will soar.

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The One Secret to Making a Stripper Want You and Not Your Wallet

You know that you want her: problem is, you think she’s only into you for your money. She leans in, letting you gaze down her push-up bra ”Do you think I’m sexy?” she purrs. ”Yeah…” you mumble back. ”Then I think it’s time you buy a dance, baby…”

You get 3 minutes of her hot body gyrating up against you: and she gets your last $20. Skipping off to see another chump, you wonder how you’d ever get some proper one-on-one time with that ass… without having to pay by the minute. If you’re crazy about strippers but have no idea how to talk to them, you’ll need to up your stripper game: fast. Strippers behave like turbo-charged hot babes because you pay their rent. Wandering into the Spearmint Rhino on a Friday night is a guaranteed way to get played. Having said that, there is one simple trick to standing out from every other guy out there.

Don’t agree with her. This is subtler and harder than you might think.

I’m not talking about having a full-scale row with her about sub prime markets, or being rude about her fake tan. I’m talking about gently asserting your opinion, instead of just agreeing with hers, so that you are in control. Strippers are, after all, trying to control you by making you buy a dance. Apart from splurging your first semester’s funds on dirty dances. Here are some other ways you may lose control, and your game, with a stripper:

Stripper: “Do you think I look sexy in my stockings?”

You: “Yes very!”

Fail! Stop staring at her legs! It’s so much better to gently assert your opinion here and give her a response she doesn’t expect.

Stripper: “Do you think I look sexy in my stockings?”

“Yes, but I’ve always preferred fishnets.” 

Suddenly you’re not sounding bowled over by her looks; because you’re surrounded by sexy women all the time, right?

Ok here’s another example of how you can unexpectedly comply, letting her run the show, and sizing up your wallet:

Stripper: “Can you guess what state I’m from originally?”

You: “I don’t know… err… Minnesota?”

Now you’re playing her game, literally… one that can go on for fifty guesses and that generally makes you look like a jerk. Next time a stripper tries to make you play her game, make sure you set the rules. This will show how you’re not a push over and are there to speak to her as an equal, not a target.

Stripper: “Can you guess what state I’m from originally?”

You: “Sure. But if I get it right in three guesses I’m getting a free dance.”

By not giving her the responses she wants, or expects, you automatically separate yourself from 90% of the guys that stroll into the strip club. Not looking like your average Joe is what helps to create the attraction.

She will like you more if:
• You let her know she’s not on a pedestal because of her looks
• You’re confident enough to assert your own opinion
• You don’t always agree with her
• You show your masculine enough to not give in to all her games

Forget this and you’re just another guy that she can game. Remember to disagree with her and she’ll respect you for a lot more than your wallet.

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How To Tell If She’s A Kinky Super Freak

You’re at the bar looking for a hot girl who looks like she wants to hook up, but not just a make out sesh followed by a phone number. You’re looking to meet a girl who’s just as devious as you are. Asking a girl if she’s into anal isn’t exactly the easiest thing to casually drop into conversation, though. You also know that some of the girls in this club have got to be totally into it, all you really need is a strategy to find them. In court, you might refer to what we’re discussing as “leading the witness”. PUA Training’s Head Coach Adam Lyons breaks it down below.

Adam teaches a theory on something called ‘qualification hoops’ as part of PUA Training’s bootcamps for when you want to move on from just having friendly banter with a girl to something much more seductive. Qualification is all about getting a girl to gradually reveal her intimate thoughts, whilst you lead the interaction in the direction you want it to take. You may not want to ask, ‘Are you into anal?’ right off the bat; but I’d bet you’d ask a girl what she did for fun?

The idea is that you start small and get her to answer a question that isn’t too risqué. As she warms up to chatting to you, you can move the interaction on to filthier topics. Just make sure you volunteer some information back so it doesn’t sound too much like an interview.

Here is a concentrated version of what the interaction might go like: in ‘real life’ though you’d be talking in more detail, about different subjects in-between and ordering ‘social lubricant’ to get the sordid stuff out easier:

YOU: “So, what do you do for fun?”

HOT CHICK: “I like playing sports: tennis, running and even surfing.”

YOU: “Surfing? I like that. What’s your craziest surfing story?”

HOT CHICK: “Well, there was this one time I thought there was a shark… but it turned out to be just a big patch of seaweed.”

(Lame. Time to up the ante. Girls like to be challenged.)

YOU: “That’s it? Come on, you must have a better story than that! What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?”

HOT CHICK: “Hmm, well there was this one time I hooked up with a guy in one of the lecture halls in between classes at college.”

(If she doesn’t go to the hook up story right away, you’ll just need to work your way there. Might have to trade a couple increasingly provocative stories in the interim. If she goes to something sexual right away, you’re in there like swimwear)

YOU: “Now we’re talkin’. I had you pegged as a nice girl, but it sounds like you have a wild side. I still don’t think you’re as wild as me, though. I’ve done the whole hook up in public thing but I don’t want to corrupt your innocent ears.”

(If she says, ‘thanks’ you know she’s not into it. You can keep pressing but it’s important to know when to cut the cord. If you’ve been talking for more than 5 minutes and it’s not getting flirty or sexual, bail.)

HOT CHICK: “What did you do??”

YOU: “Me and this totally insane girl skipped out of our class and got nuts in our professor’s office while he lectured. I mean, NOTHING was off-limits. I’ve never done anything like that before but I’ve been trying to one up it ever since. It was amazing. What about you? Do you have any rules when it comes to hooking up?

Her body language and response to that question should be a clear cut indicator of what kind of girl she is and what kind of night you’re about to have. Some girls try to talk a big game to keep you interested but end up sucking. It’s important to get her to a point where she’s confessing and not beating around the bush or giving you the run around.

In order to move the conversation this way, you will require skill and the ability to truly interpret what the other person is feeling, plus the know-how to adjust how far you push things. Remember, if she seems unwilling to jump through a hoop and move onto more sexual topics, don’t press her for this; stick to a level she feels comfortable with.

Don’t worry though, sooner or later, you’ll hit all the responses you want: but you’ve got to be brave enough to start asking the questions.

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The Worst Text Message You Could Ever Send To A Girl

Guys, the worst text that you can send a girl is one that you probably send all the time without even thinking about it. It’s the old, “Hey babe, what are you up to Saturday night?” To the untrained eye this probably seems ok: but there is one crucial error here.

Firstly let’s think about what the message implies. It implies that you want to ask her out on a date, but are ‘feeling her out’ (as opposed to ‘up’) about whether she’ll be free or not.These don’t seem like the actions of a super confident man. If you want to ask her for a date be direct about it. Saying:

“Hey, I’m heading to an awesome house party on Friday, you should come along.”

Or, “Hey, I’ll be passing through your neighbourhood this weekend so let’s grab a coffee on Saturday morning.”

All sound so much stronger, somehow. There’s something super attractive about a man with a plan. And you know what? The devil is in the detail. Since you’ve been specific about what you’re going to be doing, she knows what she’s signing up for if you guys hang out.

If you leave it vague by asking her what her Saturday night plans are, she’ll worry that if she says she’s free, the girl (sort of) commits herself to agreeing to whatever plan you’re about to suggest. That could be anything from an awkward dinner date, to meeting your folks, to coming round to your house to watch ‘DVDs’.

Obviously you may actually have something super cool planned; and she may want to meet up, but she’ll hedge her bets until your plans are clear. Hot girls have a lot of weekend night options; this is prime social time. So they won’t give it up to you unless you’re clear about what’s on offer (even if it’s just chilling with you and watching Madmen).

Instead they’ll probably make out that they have vague plans, then pick whichever event they feel like attending on Saturday. This doesn’t help you to plan your weekend. This also means that you can’t really ask another chick (unless you’re really that much of a pimp), because you could possibly double-book.

So next time, be specific about what your plans are. If she agrees to them, great. If not, you’ll know the score so that you can set up a date with your back up plan.

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Menage a Trois Manners: The Etiquette Guide To Threesomes

It’s the ‘end of the rainbow’ moment for many a happy hunting pick up artist. The moment where their skills are so hot, the moment is so perfect and the girls so wild that a three-way jumps onto the cards. Whether you’ve done a Jedi mind trick on your girlfriend to make her comply, or just happened to find two BFFs looking to make you the luckiest man alive; you need to know the rules of play to prevent your three-way f*ck fest from turning into a f*ck-up. Check out my tips below.

Be Honest

As part of a couple bringing in an ‘external contractor’ both of you need to be totally comfortable with what you’re doing before you’re already tangled up. In fact I’d advise that you’d want your girlfriend to be more than just comfortable with a threesome before trying it; in fact we’d like her to be enthusiastic about it. In each of the threesomes I’ve had, I’ve lead from the front – I wouldn’t have had it any other way. Just ‘going along with it’ to keep your partner happy is the worst: it equates to bad sex in the moment and tons of issues to follow.

So before you add a plus one, I’d advise getting right down to the nitty, gritty, and quite frankly rude, details of what you both feel comfortable with. Maybe as a woman you’re ok to invite another lady into the bedroom, but don’t want your guy to have full penetrative sex with her? Maybe you’re a guy that gets off on the thought of his lady having some lesbian action: but wants to be a fully participatory member of the party? Either way these are discussions that you need to have, long before your clothes start flying off!

Be Inclusive

Starting out with great intentions is one thing, but the second need for uber-honesty comes when you meet your plus one. Threesomes involve a lot of foreplay as it’s important that everyone feels involved (unless being discluded suits your masochistic tastes, in which case fair enough!) However, everything about the run up to the threesome, whether it be a spur of the moment club thing, or a pre-arranged swinging thing, should include your partner absolutely. I’d advise letting the less keen partner take the lead in their choice of third-party, and checking out some three-way porn to know which positions turn you on, and which will make you feel left out.

Find Out What Your Playmate Wants

If all this honesty was making you woozy it’s time to be prepared for some more. On top of figuring out what you and your partner want: you also need to check that your frisky third-party is also after the same things. Some people will want no strings, others may fancy a more long term arrangement. I’ve even known one guy to take a girl’s virginity, whilst her best friend held her hand, then go on to a regular relationship with them both. Stranger things have happened. Either way, get this squared before you hook-up. The last thing you want is to have an amazing night marred by a little confusion as to when to call their cab afterwards.

Protect Your Boundaries

Keeping some space between your normal life and your extra-curricular activities is key. Believe me I’ve tried blending both and it becomes complicated: fast. This may mean using a PAYG mobile/ different email account to contact your extras, or it could mean meeting them at a hotel, instead of your home, if you’re a couple. Even if you’re a lone guy, looking to score a hat trick, make sure that the girls know it’s a ‘one night thing’; and that the people who you really respect (employers, parents, even friends) don’t find out at all. Unless you’re a bona fide PUA, in which case bragging is just fine, then unfortunately others will often not think kindly of your sexual experimentation. So be careful who you talk to: and try not to hook up with anyone at the office party or anything gossip-worthy like that.

It’s Okay To Hit the Panic Button

You know best when a boundary has been crossed when you:

1. Feel queasy and confused
2. Feel uncertain that they should be putting that there
3. Jump out of the window

If you want to have fun, and three ways, then you should be able to call it quits if they’re unhappy. Even if you’re in the hotel room, and things are getting hot, you and your partner should always have a code word that means ‘eject’ if that’s what it takes to keep you together.

Similarly if it’s your first time in bed with two hot babes it’s ok for things to feel uncertain, awkward, or even not go the whole way. Lots of the times you need to know you’ve got the skills to do something, then physically go there, and then perfect your technique. So don’t sweat it if things aren’t perfect: chalk it up to experience and know better next time.

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Stop Doing These 3 Things If You Want To Get Laid

Girls consistently run away when you approach, give you the cold shoulder or give you the look of ‘you’re an alien’ (and not in the sexy Katy Perry way)? Sounds like you need to watch out for the top 3 ways in which you can seem like a weirdo… despite actually being a pretty f*cking cool guy. If you want to break this slump you’re in, check ‘em out below.

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Failing to make good eye contact

Looking away as you speak, or being unable to hold someone’s gaze, creates a much worse impression than you just being a little shy. Great eye contact is a key way in which we communicate our sincerity to someone. So, instead of just seeming nervous when you tell her that you think she’s cute, you’ll appear insincere. If she can’t tell whether you’re for real or not, she’ll walk. Instead, muscle up the courage to let her meet your gaze; and even if it conveys a dose of insecurity that’s a lot easier to link than insincerity.

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Fidgeting

Whatever your actions are (whether that’s spinning a girl around, or going in for the kiss) then you need to perform them smoothly. She’ll find it tough to maintain a conversation with you if all she can notice is how you keep fiddling with your belt buckle or twiddling with your straw. Try to make sure (even if you don’t quite feel it yet) that all of your body language reads ‘chilled’ even if inside you’re feeling nervous. Our external actions will not only influence how she feels, but also how we feel about ourselves. We’re like atoms of energy: and what vibe we give out we tend to get back. So if you radiate ‘nervous’ (though it’s very understandable why you would feel that way) she’s going to feel awkward, too. Instead, work on keeping calm and relaxed in your movements, and soon she’ll feel much more chilled in your presence, too.

photo by Kent Mathews, Stone

Sudden changes

Everything you do – whether it’s building up to a kiss, or moving from topic to topic in conversation - should be done in increments or baby steps. Sudden changes in your mood, actions or chat are alarming, as they make you seem inconsistent and out of control as a person. Switching from being shy to shrieking, sitting next to her to make out, or from chatting about your dog to dogging are all too big a leap to make. As she won’t be able to see your next move coming, she’ll freak out. Instead work on making your intent clear but smooth. Don’t burst into laughter without pulling her into your joke. Don’t go into kiss her if you haven’t already come into her proximity. Don’t chat to her about sex, if you haven’t first spoken about relationships. It seems like common sense, but remember the small steps, to allow you to make the big ones.

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3 Things You Should Never Have In Your Bachelor Pad

Kissing passionately, biting lips, you stumble into your bedroom with a hottie: legs wrapped around your body. Falling onto the bed, her eyes flick around the room and a look of horror flashes across her face. Within seconds she’s already up and gone, slamming the door behind her. Where did it all go wrong? The answer lies in your room. Here are a few huge no-no’s you should never have around your bachelor pad.

PHOTO CREDIT (ABOVE): Digital Vision, Photodisc

Posters / Decor That Suggest You’re Still a Teenager

Even if you are sub-twenty-one, try not to act like it. A woman wants to feel like she’s going home with a sexually experienced man; not someone who only recently escaped his parent’s basement. Telltale signs of unwillingness to leave your grubby teenage years include posters relating to beer, t*ts or weed. These were really only cool when you were 15; but as soon as you started drinking beer, smoking dope, or sucking breasts, they become passé. Please don’t give out the impression that you’re still impressed by that stuff. Instead, be nonchalant about your sexual and partying life. After all, partying until dawn with loads of hotties is something you do all the time, so no big deal, right?

Litter / Dirty Dishes

Nothing screams ‘get me out of here’ like a full-to-the-brim trash can, a sink stuffed with dirty dishes, or food squashed into the carpet. A clean and (relatively) organised pad suggests that you have got your whole life together. A tidy room suggests success and a great lifestyle; both of which are huge deal clinchers for women. The biggest turn off I’d ever experienced was when a guy took me back to his post-party apartment and the upturned tables were such a turn off! And anyone who lives like that… you’ve just got to question their personal hygiene.

Signs of Philandering / Evidence of Other Women

No woman wants to feel like there is a revolving door on your apartment, so avoid any obvious signs of philandering. This means keeping your condoms somewhere discreet that is not in a bowl by your bed. Same rule applies for sex toys, too. Sure, some girls will appreciate your consideration; others will think it’s just plain creepy that you have them. Make sure to tuck both away along with your goat porn (actually keep that in a place no one will ever see).

On the flip side of philandering, women also won’t love evidence of ex-girlfriends hanging around your place. Keep any photos of lost loves, left behind articles of clothing, or obvious feminine touches to a minimum. Even if it was your mom who picked out those pink mugs for you, try not to make it appear that another girl is more important in your life than the one who’s in your bed at that given moment.

Follow these few tips and your pad should be girl-approved. Now all you need is to figure out how to get the girls back there, for more information on how to do just that, check out www.puatraining.com

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