Does the thought of asking a girl out on a date make you sweat in a non-sexual related way? If so, you are likely a coward. Don’t take it personally; the sad fact is that most of us guys are incredibly awkward when it comes to approaching girls (unless your name is Rico).
Luckily, with a little practice, know-how and confidence, even a gargoyle like Larry King can pick up a girl way out of our league (tip #1: money helps). Here are some more tips:
Step 1: Get Over the Fear of Rejection
Many of us talk ourselves out of approaching a girl because we keep thinking, “what if she says no?” Sure, the fear of rejection can be unbearable, but so is the idea of you and your hand spending another night alone. Instead, a better question to ask yourself is, “what’s the worst that could happen?” The answer, of course, is that she says no, but is that really such a bad thing? It may sting the ego a bit, but unless this is a close friend you’re trying to bone, you’re likely never going to see this girl again. So, who cares? Besides, she probably has herpes anyway.
Step 2: Build Your Confidence
Let me say this clearly – confidence is the MOST IMPORTANT thing when it comes to picking up girls. You don’t need a chiseled jaw. You don’t need an Ed Hardy t-shirt. You don’t even need Axe Body Spray. Girls find confidence (note: not arrogance) extremely sexy. Unfortunately, if you’re a coward, then confidence is something you likely lack. If so, then perhaps I can suggest a tactic that worked for me: hit on ugly girls.
That’s right, if you hit on a girl that you are 100 percent not attracted to, then it takes all the anxiety and stress out of the situation. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to have sex with an ugly girl. Your goal should be getting her phone number for the sheer purpose of boosting your confidence and practicing your technique. Once acquired, immediately throw the number away and go hit on her more attractive friend.
Step 3: Don’t Go to Bars
Bars have a few things going for them. For one, the girls are drunk. For two, the low lighting hinders the girl’s ability to see your face, which may work in your favor. However, this is where the professionals go to pick up girls. You don’t want to compete with them. Instead, choose a place where you feel comfortable hanging out. This goes along with the confidence business. A coffee shop or bookstore may be a good option. An elementary school, however, is not suggested as a good option for picking up girls.
Step 4: Initiate a Conversation
Starting a conversation with a girl is often the hardest part. A good way to do this is to find a genuine, non-creepy way to compliment the girl. This generally means steering clear of physical appearance. Sure, you may love her boobs, but it’s generally a better idea to compliment the shirt that’s covering them. As such, clothing is a great thing to compliment.
Alternatively, you can start a conversation by asking a question. If you’re at a bookstore you can ask the girl about a particular book she’s reading. Other situation-relevant examples include, “Have you ever had the muffins here,” “Where did you find that [item in her hand]” and “Is that powdered sugar on your chin” (see Step 2).
Step 5: Keep Her Talking
Once you’ve got the conversation started, it’s easy to keep it going. The key is to keep asking question about the girl’s interests. This works because girls LOVE talking about themselves. If the girl isn’t completely repulsed by you, she’ll likely go on and on about shopping, hair and romantic comedies for hours. If she asks questions about yourself, go ahead and answer them. However, keep the details to a minimum. You don’t want her knowing the real you until after you’ve seen her naked.
Step 6: Seal the Deal
If the girl has been talking to you for a few minutes and she has seemed relatively interested (she’s smiling a lot, leaning in to listen, etc.), then it’s time to reel in the fish. You can straight up ask her for her number or ask if she’d like to have sex go out some time. Or, a better way may be to tie the proposition into your previous conversation. Examples: “You like Judd Apatow movies too? Want to go see one with me sometime?” “Thai food is awesome. There’s a great place right around the corner. If you’d like, I could take you there sometime.” “No way! I like vaginas too. Can I see yours sometime?”
If you’re lucky, she’ll say yes and you’ve succeeded in picking up a girl. If she says no, go home and cry in your room for a while. Then go back out and try again. Don’t get discouraged, the more you try, the better you’ll get and the better your odds will improve. Keep at it, and eventually those nights spent at home alone with your hand will be a thing of the past.
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Just AWESOME. Thought this would be a comedic bit, but its pretty accurate.
Step 1: Get Over the Fear of Rejection
Hit
Step 2: Build Your Confidence
Hit
Step 3: Don’t Go to Bars
Hit & Miss: Depends … what if you feel comfortable in bars? I don’t really but get a few drinks into me and things start to happen.
Step 4: Initiate a Conversation
Miss .. “Starting a conversation with a girl is often the hardest part. A good way to do this is to find a genuine, non-creepy way to compliment the girl. This generally means steering clear of physical appearance.”
Ok, the problem is finding a “genuine, non-creepy way to compliment”. For one, lotsa guys do this – it instantly makes you boring and “the same”. Your better off just saying “Hey” and asking what she’s doing *first*, boring stuff for a few seconds … and *then* making a snide comment on something. Something she’s obviously put some effort into – and giving mixed messages about it: like “Those are great shoes, they look really nice … but I feel sorry for the homeless guy walking around in barefeet now”. or “You’ve got great hair … how much do wigs like that cost these days?”. It sets you apart – how many guys do you suppose have said things like this. If she laughs – however unconvincingly, great, if she starts to act pissed off start “busting her balls” about it. Like “Do you always act like a spoilt little brat when someone pays you a compliment” or “I can’t stand it when you make that face at me – it probably worked on your daddy but there’s a difference – I don’t care about you”. Don’t back down in if she gets pissed off.
Step 5: Keep Her Talking
Miss .. when you first meet someone, keep it short – real short. Both of you are nervous, act like it’s really unimportant and ask for a phone # &/or email within 2-5 mins, and leave. She’s worked out if she likes you or not and if you leave it makes you seem unavailable. Beautiful women are used to men doing the complete opposite, it makes you different and she’ll like it that your not pursuing her.
Step 6: Seal the Deal.
Hit…
If you’re lucky, she’ll say yes and you’ve succeeded in picking up a girl. … However, it’s really unattractive to let her know that your really glad
Ah yes, sealing the “deal” because the only thing that makes a relationship worth a fuck is if you have sex. *rolls eyes*
I am so glad my man is not as stupid as all these articles put off.
talking about times when there was no blogging. i exactly followed these 5 steps and went from coward to pro in less than 3 weeks.
the most important line – what do you have to lose if she says no – next – more than dime a dozen. next. next.
Here are the facts: Women are looking for someone to build a nest with and someone who can support her offspring. That is how women are wired. They want the sperm to come from a good looking man who earns a good living and who they can ultimately dominate in a long term relationship.
Its that simple.
Is this guy serious up here? Tell her it looks like she stole her shoes from the homeless? The reason why most guys don’t do that is because that is the stupidest thing I ever heard. It sets you apart alright. If that shit actually works for you, you are either going home with fatties or you are actually a good looking kid, one that could pull way more if someone taught him how to talk to girls.
@Jeff: Complimenting the girls shirt makes it pretty obvious what you were staring at, and if you look kinda creepy this can be a dealbreaker
This is not completely inaccurate. Please come up to us and everything…But if you have such a sad, generic view of women that you think I’m going to talk to you about shopping and chick flicks then I probably WILL reject you. Learn something about how women are real people with actual interests, that might help.
this is decent advice for men who are terrified of women. but why (dear god why) would you be afraid of women? they’re people, just like you but with slightly different anatomical features. seriously, they won’t bite your head off if you do something wrong. sack up and talk to them if you feel like it.
#3 is lacking. if you want to meet party girls, then you should go to the bars/clubs. if you like emo girls, go to shows and start a band. if you like studious girls, go to libraries and bookstores.
also “You don’t want her knowing the real you until after you’ve seen her naked”? you want her to know the best sides of you soon so that you actually get to see her naked. and tell the truth, please.
@SexyMan you’re watching The Pickup Artist a little too much.
@The Baroness I agree, but it says “keep asking questions about her interests” and you don’t say that you’re interested in shopping and chick flicks, we won’t ask.
by reading this or choosing not to read it, you void all rights to legal recourse against me. past performance is not an indicator of future results. contents volatile when mixed with alcohol.
Listening to girly bullshit… spending loads of time and money.
Seriously, I prefer spending another night boning my hand. Got better hobbies
“Step 1 get over your fear of rejection”
Well no S#&t Sherlock> While your at it earn $10,000,000 and grow a better looking face.
Saying “get over your fear of rejection.” Doesn’t say HOW to get over it.
There’s about 100 more hours of SOLID audio content on this subject done by PickUp Podcast. They’re not pickup artists or anything so the advice is actually legit and makes sense.
http://www.pickuppodcast.com
This is such great advice! It keeps the losers messing up and NOT picking up chicks so that the professionals (me) can continue to mop up the pooooohsay.
Hey, if you REALLY want to know what a REAL woman thinks of you, you can ask me. Granted, I would just be one data point, but that’s one more than you have now, right? This here is just a list. So, you can email me at hlgshd0913 at yahoo dot com. It’s free advice almost, because I get to learn about you, also.
Cheers!
All it takes is a good title for a generic articles like this make the front page of Digg! Gj COED Mag.
“If the girl isn’t completely repulsed by you, she’ll likely go on and on about shopping, hair and romantic comedies for hours.”
lol, not exactly the experience I’ve encountered.
Seriously though, I’d like to compare this article to a real article pickup authorities such as http://www.artofseductions.com/how-to-pick-up-girl …
or even Fastseduction, etc.
step 1: don’t care.
no really…stop caring. if you are that desperate for pussy, go drop some cash on a high end ‘escort’, bust a nut and get it out of your system…or…if you’re a simpler guy, just spank to internet porn.
women come a dime a dozen…you’ll never have time to meet them all. there’s no supply problem. relax…sure she’s hot, and so are the 10000000000 other bitches standing right behind her. get over the goddess headtrip. she shits, farts and menstruates. she’s just a girl.
if a female can’t be attracted to you just being yourself and not trying to impress her, she’s not worthy of you dick. you may never get laid, but at least you’ll have your self-respect for not spending so much mental and emotional energy trying to mack a bimbo. think about it guys…think hard.
cheers.
initiating a conversation is critical… it demonstrates confidence and interest.
Yes, what some of the people have said about negging works on a women, not all, but a good amount. It will make them self conscious and thus give them the desire to prove to you are wrong, making them more interested in you. Works on some men as well. But remember, there is a limit.
lol! bookmarked for memorization!
..or visit http://2meet4free.com/
Great stuff, but what people really need is an actual step-by-step guide to picking up women from approach to sex… for more info visit http://www.getagirlfriend.ws