Comments on: Taking Her Virginity: A Guy’s Biggest Fear

By: Marv

Marv — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 08:33:17 +0000

Guys fear virgins because they don't want to have psychobitches in their lives after the sex. Imagine this: You didn't fully enjoy the experience because the girl who gladly passed you her v-card doesn't know a thing how to pleasure you. She cries when you put it in. The bed is stained with frigging blood and while having sex, your conscience (if you have 1) is bugging you for 'deflowering' a delicate woman. Then, you days after her first time she starts demanding that you call her regularly or that you spend time with her everyday. Sheessshhh. All that trouble for a V-card? Damn, no way Jose.

I salute to your boyfriend for being honest enough to say what most men can't tell virgins.

By: heather

heather — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 15:53:48 +0000

i agree with crunchy. it depends on the status of the relationship, as far as how attatched you get, and people need to clarify their feelings. i have friends that lost their virginity with a guy they werent dating, and they didnt freak out, get messed up, or get attatched. on the other hand, when speaking of myself, i lost it to a guy i was already dating… so duh there were feelings involved, i wouldnt be dating someone i felt nothing for, that would be a total waste of my time. i think it really depends on the status of the two people, and that women arent ingrained to automatically be attatched once it happens.

that said, even if the woman isnt interested in a relationship, im surprised guys would want to take the v-card. its really not all that great the first time, with the words "ouch" or "stop" having a high potential of occuring. but whatever, to each their own.

By: Wesley the Great

Wesley the Great — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 12:10:41 +0000

Personally I think afraid is the wrong word here. I would rather be with a Virgin for a number of reasons the least of which isn't that it's safer. Moreover, for me, its a territorial thing; if she's a virgin then I know that no one else has punched her card. Boldly going where no one else has gone before if you will. Obviously it does have its cons as well, among them, she'll probably less willing to try stuff and you'll have to coach on how to do some of the more common stuff whereas with an experienced woman you're good to go. Regardless afraid is the wrong word.

By: John

John — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 10:36:42 +0000

The thing is that girls really do get attached after they lose their v-card. If you are the first person to be with a girl, they simply don't have the experience of a relationship, and that could lead them to misunderstanding a lot of things. You don't want to be the guy to garner that sort of attachment.

By: crunchy

crunchy — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 13:32:40 +0000

I think it's just important to have a clear understanding of the relationship before sex ever occurs. Too many people lead themselves into sex without clarifying their own (and even more their partner's) feelings. If you weren't in love before sex, then you should not be in love the next day. If you didn't know shit about that person before you got nasty then sex won't fill all of those holes (just the physical one). Stop pretending that sex is a cure-all and virginity won't make as much of a difference.

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 11:53:17 +0000

Well to be honest, he was a douche for saying it like that, but he had valid fears. I know just because you 'are not like that' (as most women say when faced with this shit) doesn't mean that a large majority of women are not like that. Women get attached, and I mean ATTACHED once sex has taken place, at least in the case of late high-school / early college women, it has less and less effect as the women get older. Fact is your guy had fears that most men wouldn't express because they wouldn't want to fuck up getting some pussy, and the fact he said anything (all be it in a moronic way) is actually kind of commendable.

By: Jacqueline

Jacqueline — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 22:38:22 +0000

It's funny, but pulling out the 'V Card' could sometimes warm a scumbag's heart-at least make him more human. Happened to me.

I think many gals have been here at least once: Be so into a guy that everyone else knows is a straight up asshole/dickbag/he-ho/etc. The quintessential 'bad boy' who makes your heart pump while making your best friend's skin crawl. Anyway, on the night all the nasty things were to commence, I drop the V bomb and Mr. Baddass became a punkass. Lol! Now, of course looking back I appreciate his apprehension about being"…the Big Bad Wolf fucking Little Red Riding Hood…" (his words, honest). If I was a slutbucket, it would have been different. Hell, he gave me a kiss on the forehead and told me to give 'it' to someone more worthy. We became cool friends after that.

By: jvan

jvan — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 17:50:52 +0000

Here's the thing, sex does change everything. The fact that you didn't want to give it up to some random frat guy acknowledges that. You didn't say "Hey, this is my first time go easy", you put the emphasis on sex=relationship, so why wouldn't he respond that way?

By: Dave

Dave — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 17:28:44 +0000

It really is most guys thing to want to be the one to gladly punch your vcard. Every man dreams of doing it at one point in his life, being the first P in this particular amazing girls V, as you would say. The thing we don't want is the offshoot chance that she will totally go schizo on you after you take it. haha. Therefore he didn't say the things someone would normally say. He wanted to make sure that you weren't one of the crazies. haha.