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Sure, I jerk off. I like lesbian porn from time to time. What bothers me about porn is that it’s not used to masturbate because you JUST HAVE to masturbate. It’s used to indulge. And indulgence takes away from the potential HOT sex two people can shrare in a relationship. It’s chasing an orgasm. It’s kind of silly. I’ve masturbated since age 12. I made my own sex toys by 13. I’m NOT a prude, but I’m also not a man and I’m not trying to be.

Why have we decided to sell our selves out? I don’t want to demonize male sexuality, but come on! When you’d rather wank it while the girlfriend is at the grocery store versus licking her taint when she gets home, something is wrong with the relationship. You know it. She knows it. And it stinks. I masturbate when I’m horny. Period. It’s not the other way around. When single, I indulge in porn. When in a relationship, I try and put my sexual energy into the person I’m with. Or, if I can’t stand it, I rub it, but only when it begs rubbing.

Women do not become aroused by looking at naked men. We never will. So, when you look to be aroused by other women with ideal bodies that we can never achieve, yeah, you have to know it affects your desire in your partner. I mean, come on! Women have been getting plastic embedded in their chests to appease men at alarming rates. Plastic in the chest! Have you stopped to think about it!? It’s not Rogain! It’s PLASTIC in the CHEST! So, if a “spank bank” makes so many women unhappy, why go to great lengths to hide it? Break up with her and find one that accepts it. There are plenty of self-objectifying, man-acting women out there. Right?

Thank god she can deep throat better than any porn stash pic I had ….thats all I can say.

“I end up getting off after he leaves cause i feel he thinks I am dirty for that.”

That’s your own insecurity causing all of this. You feel dirty about it, so he thinks you don’t want to do it, and they cycle just perpetuates itself.

All you need to do is let him know that you have a voracious sexual appetite, and everything will be good. You’ll both be getting laid exactly as much as you want to be getting laid–constantly.

I too am a woman and I love sex. I love to watch porn. It’s the lying and sneaking that get me.

I want sex all the time. I want to try new things. I want to share in all of that glory with my boyfriend.

It just feels like he has this misconstrued image of me and sex. Which is why I end up getting off after he leaves cause i feel he thinks I am dirty for that, but yet he feels I never want it.

I’ve gotten to the point of expressing some of my sexual fantasies online with guys who are more… appreciative.

From this article, it seems like guys don’t understand women at all, and maybe that is somewhat our fault….but NOT completely!

“Women need to realize that men don’t think the same as they think. We usually don’t have intricate fantasies or get fixated on particular people. We just like watching sex.”

WHAT!!!???

This is the most generalized untrue thing I’ve heard lately. I am a women, I like watching sex… A LOT! Sometimes really kinky stuff. ALSO I have met A LOT of men who have “intricate fantasies”..very detaield at that! and men who are obsessed with certain people (celebrities or real women too). So I agree to disagree.

I hate when men think, all women want is needy love and emotional support. *puke!*

Sometimes the last thing I want is someone to cuddle me, or tell me pretty words …and I just want to be thrown on a bed and go at it primal style (creative or kinky style too!) gasp! I know!… I am a real lady and not a slut, but come on, women have “needs” too, and I don’t mean emotion cooing either. blah!

Most of us are VERY visual too.

To continue the stereotypes many men have of women, you think we love shoes, right? (ok, I admit I do, that’s not the point haha).

BUT, hello! you see women at stores drolling over the fashion. It is not becuase it is practical or comfortable…it is the visual aspect of it, and it doesn’t end there at our toes.

Women are as lustful creatures as men.
We just aren’t all as open about it.

Thing is, when women like sex, we are often called whores, sluts, ***dumpsters. So even if we think about it more then the next guy (or have a stash of porn, toys, or what-not), we aren’t all going to admit it to the world, usally, and especially not face-to-face.

My ex would tell me I never wanted sex (when he wanted it), but then when I wanted it he would tell me that’s all I wanted from him and that I was slutty for saying it(and not in some role-playing name calling kinkiness way either).

So, I say that a lot of men have double standards! My ex watched porn, and I didn’t really care, until he started doing it beside me when I “slept” and started trying to hide it from me/lying…and talking to his ex girlfriends (not in a “friend” way (I feel the need to add). It crossed over to disrespect, so many it isn’t so much as you doing it, but how you do it guys?

A lot of women like to see sex and Most women masturbate (you think they make sex toys or back messagers for nothing?). Heck, some off us do it without much thought (without any thought or “feelings” to our special sweetie pie *GAG!*), then go get a big sandwich and cheese curls, and fall asleep in a old band tshirt while watching bad late night tv,.. just to feel good or release stress and get to sleep, or statisfy a simple need. Or maybe we just don’t want to deal with a relationship at the time and the ups and downs and emotional craziness/cling/jealousy that follows them often or maybe we are lazy or too busy, Sound familar?

So, women aren’t just like men, no, but we are a lot more a like then a lot of men know, or we often admit.

Not all of us are Park Ave. prissy, toile wearing, stationary sending, monogram loving, poodle having, stepford, stick up the butt, sexually repressed ninnies…

Or slutty, rock of love, bimbo, black lip lined, bad fake tanned, spandex tube dress, whores either

There’s a middle ground where real normal women exist…and we like sex there too…a lot,…

maybe not with you though.

REPLIES

RINGO

““Why the hell is this hot girl having it with this ugly guy?” it just doesn’t make much sense.” Because she is getting paid to.

“Don’t forget though that there are pornos made specifically for women, but the stuff for guys has far more in comparison (not in quality, but quantity).” So, what makes you think the stuff you watch is for guys only? You think girls that watch porn, only search for “porn for girls”? lol

THEBIGIFF

I think most women are bi (or would be) even if they don’t admit it,…even to themselves, but that’s just I.M.O. and as far as I can tell Kat never said SHE was btw.

I personally like to see naked women (because they are beautiful) and I’m not a lesbian. In seeing sex videos, I feel like I can relate to how women feel more, mainly cause I don’t have a penis. lol

TIM,

“if I was going to look for girls without sticks up with asses what locations would you recommend?” Trust me, we are all around.