After spending the last few months speaking at universities in the Northeast, there’s one question that keeps coming up. (No, it’s not “who farted?”)
“What’s the best way to approach women at school?”
Fret not, young ones. Here’s how to get love in three everyday , mundane areas on campus. And, unlike alcoholism, you can solve this in just five easy steps!
1. Find her when she’s alone. It’s not as creepy as it sounds. You stand a greater chance of meeting her when she’s by herself than with friends. She’ll be more receptive to your charms.
2. Observe something about her. What is she doing? What is she wearing? What is she eating? What’s she reading? Observations lead to conversation.
3. Start talking. Now that you’ve summed her up, talk! Use what you have observed as a starter ( not in a stalker, I – know- your – underwear – color kind of way). Don’t worry about saying the right thing; think less, talk more.
4. Listen. What? Seriously, you need to hear what she’s saying. Her conversation clues you into what you need to say next.
5. Remember, it’s GREAT to meet her. If you know you will see her again, tell her that it was great to meet her. She’ll be thinking about you. If this is a random meeting in a place that you may not see her again for awhile, set up the next meeting. Suggest hanging out or studying together.
Now that you’ve mastered those steps, test ‘em out! Here are three places to get started:
The Cafeteria. What you need to do is walk right over to the table when she’s alone and ask her if you could share the table. After sitting down, look at what’s she’s eating. “Is the meat loaf good?” works. “What’s that smell?” is not so hot.
The Library. This approach is all about the walk-by. You need to find where the girl is sitting… and then walk on by and smile. If she smiles back, make another lap like you are looking for a seat. Then ask her if you can sit down at her table. If you get this far, the rest is easy. Just ask her about what she’s studying, the book she has open, her major. Don’t offer any “pills” to keep her awake, however. That’s not cool.
Your Class. Get to class early and hang outside the room (pretend to be on a call). When she arrives, see where she sits… and go over, smile, look at the seat next to her and ask if anyone is sitting there. From that point, it’s all about small talk. “Did you do the homework?” is a good one. Keep it friendly and simple; you’ll see her again in class. All you’re doing is laying the foundation. Honestly, that’s it. If she starts asking you questions you’re in. She’ll be interested in you if you show interest in her. Ask her to hang out after this happens.
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i have the best luck during dorm fire drillz.
Isn’t all that kind of logic?
WOW! Horribley bad and simple advice.
How do I go meet that girl?
Go talk to her!
OH THANKS.
lul noobs
Or join a fraternity like I did.
What you dorks need to do to get laid is lower your standards and wear a condom!
That’s what my grungy old neighbor told me years ago, it’s never failed me since!
Plus, Fat girls try harder!
Good advice if you’re an alien just learning how to socialize. I’m with Todd, the easiest way is to join a fraternity. Not only will you be exposed to tons of girls without even trying but the pledge season alone will build your confidence in talking w/ anybody (for example rapping Biggy in front of 25 guys you just met).
ok, say you know all that.
but you are nervous, shaking and stuttering,
whenever you approach a nice girl,
what do you do?
practice on a not so nice girl?
ok say thats no problem,
but the nice girl is still making you
nervous, shaking and stuttering,
what do you do?
Jones, you’re being too self concious. You have to just not care at all. Dont act like a tool who thinks hes hot shit but pretend you’re talking to a good friend instead. I find focusing on something else in your mind is a good way to keep from thinking about how stupid you may or may not be acting. Still keep focus on the conversation but divert some of your attention to your plans for the day or something else like that.
Jones isn’t asking a question. He’s writing poetry.
geez it’s so early >.>
This is for lamers. It’s easy to meet women, most are just as horny as guys.
Just remember they love oral too.
http://www.rpgbugs.com
Fraternities are for dorks. Learn to play guitar, start a band.
You get to be cool, you get to have fun, people find you more interesting (because you are)… and when you look back on it 20 years down the line… well, you’ll have more interesting memories than all the frat-boys as well.
As far as the confidence thing, you stop stuttering when you gain confidence.
Don’t approach women who you cannot feel confident around. It will be a waste of your time, even if you do “talk”.
Instead, build up confidence (I like the frat idea but I never joined one) by talking to more women and even practicing starting conversations with ANYBODY waiting in a line or whatever, whether they are old, little kids, or guys your age. Once you can start a conversation easily and feel good about yourself, talking to women is a piece of cake.
Joining a Fraternity was an important step in getting myself out of my shell. It wasn’t that i didn’t know how to talk to people. I did. I just didn’t have anything interesting to talk about. I played video games and did my home work. The fraternity gave me a group of guys that would hang out, talk about real life issues. It also gave me a pretext to approach girls, and a party or evening social event to invite her to. Once you have talked to her, and have had fun at a group social event, asking them if they want to get coffee, or go out to breakfast after the party was always a good way to get some alone time, and connect (emotionally not physically).
>Todd Ellinwood says :
>January 7, 2008 at 3:03 am
>Or join a fraternity like I did.
Haha. Fag.
good one
Hey Todd, way to be a tool.
Why do so many people find it necessary to pay for their friends?
Wait, wtf is Fraternity , not something i’ve heard of.
So when do you start asking about Cleveland Steamers?