Jealousy 411

By Mike

Jealousy is a bitch.

You can’t deny that at times your blood starts to boil when you see another guy checking out your beautiful lady. Luckily, you aren’t alone. Jealousy is a natural human emotion. Merriam-Webster likes to define it as “being threatened by and/or hostile toward a rival.”

Acting out on jealousy tendencies is often considered a bad thing. But is it really so terrible to express those feelings?

Jealousy can be harmless and even healthy, but can also take on an obsessive, dangerous dimension if you aren’t careful. Once you understand that jealousy is rooted in fear, you can deal with it. You need to communicate with your girl and let her know how you feel. But before you do, keep this in mind:

Look at your past

What were your past relationships like and how did your behavior affect them? Were you crazy-jealous then? If so, a change is in order because your behavior hasn’t worked too well for you.

Get real!
You may very well be imagining guys ogling her goodies, so focus on the reality of the situation to see if there’s any legitimate reason to be jealous. There’s no need for you to overreact at her polite ‘Thank you’ to your waiter.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T
If you don’t respect yourself, then she is most certainly not going to have any for you, either ‘ not for long, anyway. Understand that she is with YOU and she chose that. Have some confidence in yourself.

A little bit of jealousy is normal ‘ it means you care about the girl you are with. If her behavior with the Abercrombie and Fitch sales guy is bugging you, tell her in a mature, calm way. Relationships depend on TRUST; if you don’t have that, then you’ve got nothing at all.