10 Tips on being the “Zeus” of Sexual Communication

via AskMen

We all know the guys who KILL IT when it comes to women. Usually they’re not the tallest, richest or most handsome, but somehow they always wind up with attractive women. The simple reason is because they know something that most men don’t — they literally speak a different LANGUAGE when dealing with women. I call this language “Sexual Communication,â€? and learning to communicate sexually will put an end to your struggles with women FOREVER. Here are 10 secrets to the powerful language of sexual communication that you can start using with women right away.

Number 10: Spark attraction, NOT affection

Most guys try to CONVINCE a woman to feel attracted to them with such things as compliments and gifts, or hope that it will happen if they are just a “nice guy.â€? This almost never works. What they don’t understand is the difference between ATTRACTION and AFFECTION.

Attraction is a button that gets pushed, and it happens quickly or not at all. Affection is the feeling that you create when you act “nice.â€? Affection brings friendship, but attraction brings PASSION. When you learn how to communicate sexually with a woman, you will skip right over affection and make a woman feel deep ATTRACTION for you instead. There are no gifts, dinners or compliments required. Best of all, ALL MEN are born with the ability to communicate on this level. This skill is inside you right now, waiting for you to tap into it.

Number 9: Avoid being a “wussyâ€?

Have you ever done something to please a woman, but her response indicated that she wasn’t actually pleased by it? Have you ever pursued a woman with everything you had — and done everything you could think of to show her you were falling for her — only to have her pull away? Why does this happen?

Women are naturally attracted to certain personality traits, and if you don’t display these traits quickly, they’re not likely to feel ATTRACTED to you. Also, women often challenge you directly to see just how much of a WUSSY you really are. If you start failing these tests, they’ll only get tougher and more intense until the woman ultimately leaves. The answer is to learn the language of Sexual Communication so that you can spark attraction in women QUICKLY and POWERFULLY.

Number 8: Strengthen the masculine part of you

It may be an over-used saying, but “be a manâ€? is still generally good advice when it comes to attracting women. If I had to sum it up, I’d say that women are attracted to the qualities of a LEADER. Leaders don’t look to others for approval, they do what they decide is the right thing and they move forward without signs of fear, self-doubt or cowardice. Leaders live in their own world, their own reality, and they don’t let outside events emotionally destabilize them. A leader holds and carries himself in a naturally confident way, and he projects AUTHORITY in everything he does and says.

Number 7: Stop “just being yourselfâ€?

For most guys, “just being yourselfâ€? is actually just being a manipulative, ass-kissing Wussy. It’s nothing at all like ACTUALLY “being yourself.” The rules of ATTRACTION are very different from the rules of “how to be a nice, socially acceptable and accommodating guy.â€? Remember that.

Number 6: Get a sexy attitude that drives women wild

Most guys have an attitude that makes sexual communication next to impossible. Feeling insecure, putting too much pressure on each interaction, and putting her on a pedestal will put you at a severe disadvantage when it comes to communicating sexually and sparking deep attraction. Instead, try on attitudes that say: “There is no downside to this interaction;â€? “I’m a catch, and time with me is rare and valuable. She’s getting the better end of the deal;â€? or “She wants me, but I’m going to tease her to see how much.â€? Combining these perspectives creates a cocky, indifferent and aloof air to your personality that will put you well on your way to communicating on a sexual level.

Number 5: Steal her frame

Women are GREAT at making men feel attracted to them. They know how to make men feel uncomfortable, how to be cold and how to tease us in a way that drives us CRAZY. Well, you can do the same with them. I call this “Stealing Their Frame.â€?

If you can use a woman’s lines and attitude back on her, she’ll often start acting like a confused and frustrated guy who doesn’t know what else to say. So play hard to get and talk to her for a few minutes before you walk away. Make her want what you have — give her a little, tease her with it and don’t make it easy to get. Be mysterious, which might entail giving her indirect answers about your work and education. When you do these things, she’ll get the feeling that you are not a guy who is intimidated by women — and she’ll LOVE you for it.

Number 4: Execute these killer “tricksâ€?

In my eBook, Double Your Dating, I outline a bunch of different techniques that spark attraction and allow you to communicate sexually with women. For instance, if a woman complains about something, turn it up a notch. Always send mixed signals. Be unpredictable by mixing it up and changing your patterns. Never let the line go slack; always keep some tension on it. Never act apologetic or insecure, and never try to get approval or act like you’re trying to impress. And NEVER BE A WUSSY.

Number 3: Unravel the mystery of flirting

Women know what flirting is, and they respond VERY differently to flirtatious communication than they do to typical social communication. If you understand flirting and sexual communication, you can begin conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you. You’re NOT flirting if you say to a woman: “Hi, you’re very pretty and probably have a boyfriend. Right?â€? You’re just hitting on her. On the other hand, it’s OBVIOUS you’re not being serious if you say, “Hi, I realize that you’re probably shy because you get no attention from men… so I thought I’d come over here and pay attention to you.â€? This is flirting, and when you do it right, women will respond to you very quickly and with a high level of sexual interest and ATTRACTION.

Number 2: “This relationship isn’t working outâ€?

Here’s a low-risk way you can start practicing flirting: The next time you request something at a restaurant and the waitress says they don’t have it, just say, “OK, this relationship isn’t working out and I’m going to have to break up with you.â€? In fact, you can say this in just about ANY situation with ANY woman who says something you don’t like — and it’s FUNNY. When you communicate like this, you’re flirting and using a type of communication that most men will never use in their lifetime. As soon as the woman you’re talking to “engagesâ€? you in this kind of dialogue, it’s GAME ON.

Number 1: Decide to get this skill handled once and for all

Most men will never learn — let alone MASTER — how to communicate sexually with women. But if you’re willing to make this part of your life a priority, you’ll literally have an UNFAIR ADVANTAGE over guys who never took the time to work on this area. Do whatever it takes to understand what Sexual Communication is all about, and then go out into the world and practice. You might have to do some tweaking until you’ve taken your success with women to a level that truly fulfills you.