Comments on: Hey Baby, Mind if I Insult You?

By: Sith

Sith — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:49:22 +0000

These guys with whom you speak of obviously read the book wrong. You never start with a neg unless the woman you want to speak to is extremely attractive and is used to getting hit on in the same generic “You’re so hot can I buy you a drink” type of way. If you did read the entire book, you would know that they should have used an “opener” instead. A simple question or statement without sexual overtones what-so-ever. Something interesting that would get a dialog going without showing interest in anything but the woman’s opinion.

Negs are needed and used in every successful pick-up because they do a number of things: 1) Brings the woman (who, if is aware or thinks she is being hit on, thus having the power in the conversation) down to an even level, 2) Shows the man is used to being around attractive women, thus making him attractive (pre-selection/social proof), 3) Stops her friends/boyfriend/potential suitor from thinking she is being hit on and as a result will stop them from “cock-blocking” anytime in the near future.

By: Don Juan

Don Juan — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 06:12:55 +0000

So… you must be fairly attractive, but not enough that guys are constantly hitting on you. Women of value and beauty are hit on all the time. Guys always come up to THEM and compliment them and start a REGULAR CONVERSATION. and 99% of the time they blow them off. You, on the other hand, are probably delighted that any guy would actually come talk to you. These other girls, the hot ones, require a different sort of approach, one that says, “I’m not interested, but you are fun to talk to… for now.”

Sorry honey, but it works. “Negs,” as you call them, is just semantics for another form of flirting, called “teasing!” This is what people do when they are attracted to someone.

So… no one teases fat girls… because it would crush your, I mean their, self esteem.

By: Rob

Rob — Sun, 03 Feb 2008 04:49:46 +0000

What a stupid article written by a woman that gets all of her personality and dating attributes from Cosmo, but thinks guys are lame for seeking to better themselves through reading.

And for your information, negs usually don’t work on ugly girls (hint hint), which is the main fault of the guys that came up to you.

By: Readthebook

Readthebook — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 18:07:11 +0000

I have read the book – it’s quite interesting. I suggest you read it. Clearly you haven’t. You are looking at it all wrong. The examples you have written about in no way reflect what the book is about. The book is just a story about what happened in Strauss’ life during that period of time. It isn’t a “manual”, although there is a lot of useful info in it. The other people he mentions in the book do have there own manuals and how-to guides etc.

I agree that the people in your stories sound like douche bags – they did insult you – but a neg is more about timing and being subtle. I would love to hear from you after you have read the book.

By: Warren

Warren — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 05:12:32 +0000

“Grow some balls.”

That’s just it. I haven’t read Strauss’ book so I can’t comment with a high level of confidence on his philosophies.

But, I can say that at the root for developing “negs” is a desire to mimic the idiosyncrasies of a guy who does have the courage to approach women and strike up some sort of conversation. My criticism with this is that it’s all fake. Instead of teaching young men to be men, with all its virtues, it teaches men how to pretend to be a man with balls (courageous). In a sincere environment, guys and girls crack on each other. It’s part of the playful nature of flirting and the guy/girl dynamic.

Unfortunately/Fortunately, depending on your perspective, it works. Maybe not all the time, but enough to reinforce the behavior. Why? Because the majority of the guys who read this type of book become motivated. They actually get up, leave their house, and start approaching women. Even if it’s not sincere, it’s something. It’s too bad the mature aspects of positive masculinity are rarely – if ever – discussed.