Ask a Girl – The Blowjob Question: Redux

Are girls more willing to have sex than to give blowjobs? Is that really the case?

Well, I can’t speak for every chick who walks this planet, but I know why I feel more inclined towards the former. Two reasons, actually.

A) mouth + jizz = very intimate situation, and B) blowjobs are designed to make one person feel good, and only one.

CollegeCandy’s Andrew points out an interesting phenomenon. He might be right when he says college and twenty-something women are more likely to roll around in the hay than kneel at the alter. But there’s a reason for the trend. Or reasons. (see rationales A and B above).

The older we woman get, the more we begin to take control of our sexuality. And the more we take control of our sexuality, the more we crave satisfaction. One would hope with maturity comes acceptance of one’s urges, and the stigma that only sluts like sex fades back into the mouths of the idiots who tried to preach it.

The older we get, the more we realize that equal opportunity is essential in the workplace, the home, and the bedroom. Gone are the days of giving and not receiving–or, at the very least, being silent about giving without getting something back.

That brings me to Reason B (we’re starting at the end and moving forwards. I like to shake things up). Incase there’s anyone out there who doesn’t know, blowjobs aren’t the most fun a girl can have in bed. A lot of times, the only thing we really get from them is lockjaw and pieces of hair covered in our own spit. If you’re with someone you care about, then of course you want them to feel good, and giving one stops becoming a chore and ends up being fun (who doesn’t like to watch someone they adore get turned on?), but if you hardly know the guy, why the hell would you waste precious time and energy cramping up your mouth? At least with sex, there’s the potential for us to have a good time.

And here we arrive at Reason A. Someone’s unmentionables and someone else’s mouth. Right. I know we’re all adults here (or at least play them at work), but a dude’s penis and a girl’s mouth (and the other way around, to be fair) is an…interesting combination. I mean, is there anything more intimate than putting one’s lips on someone else’s place where they pee?! I’m aware that I may be slowly sucking (pardon the pun) any and all romance out of this sort of thing, but it’s the nitty gritty truth.

Plus, the sad fact is, a lot of girls give blowjobs without a condom. So besides the fact that many girls are opening up wide for STD’s and germs, they’re also allowing some dude’s sperm into their mouth (If you spit, fine. But it’s still in there for a second). If I don’t know the guy very well, there is just no way on god’s green earth I’m letting his little swimmers do the backstroke down my throat.

Ultimately, it’s about what you feel comfortable with. Mouth to private part contact no big deal? Go for it until the sun sets, lovelies. I, on the other hand, am saving my skills and hard work for someone who truly deserves it. And he shall not be disappointed … although that’s a whole other discussion.

Everyone has opinions when it comes to these behind-closed-doors (one would HOPE) activities, but no matter how you think blowjobs should go down (yup, my second pun), everyone out there should be using protection. Long term monogamous relationships are another ball (ha!) game, but for those quickie hook-ups, sex or oral, it makes absolutely no sense to forgo johnny’s small latex hat.

…that’s a cute little image, isn’t it?